Let’s talk about self-doubt and transition! Cishet folks hate that we have it and most trans folks hate it because we want their validation, but let’s face it - so many of us in the trans community feel it and you know what, that’s perfectly okay!
Everyone should feel self-doubt about their gender, because gender is made up! It’s all an elaborate maze of power & socialization, and to not feel doubt about gender it to submit to generations and generations of stale colonialist, imperialist, racist ideology.
Imagine if cis folks doubted and questioned their gender as much as trans folks do. What a world we would live in! Image being born into a world where your genitalia does not equal a color, and a series of characteristics. Just imagine! Yeah, no wonder trans people have lots of self-doubt and lots of worries around “physically” transitioning, because before you ever hop out of the womb you are prescribed a color, a name, a character, that you had no say in constructing.
Trans folks, please do not ever question your “transness” or your worthiness in the “trans community” because you have doubts about medically/physically transitioning. Instead, I ask you to thank yourself for questioning your gender - imagine if we all did. The world would be such a better place for it.
And to the cisgender (non-trans folks) reading this, you are welcome. The trans/queer movement is a liberation project for us ALL; not just for trans folks. We are doing this for all of you. So your kids, and your kids’ kids, don’t have to deal with your very stale, very tacky and very boring ideas of gender.